Many of us are thinking, oooh pancakes today and why not, who isn't partial to a pancake or two. But I wanted to take this opportunity to talk about the meaning behind Shrove Tuesday (it's official name). Not because I want to give you a religious sermon (I'm the last person qualified to do that) but because I think there is a lot to learn from it if we are open to it.
Shrove Tuesday comes from the word shrive which means to 'absolve'. For Christians it's a day of self-examination, a day to turn inwards and ask where one may have gone wrong and where we can improve. A day to ask for God's forgiveness and help to put things right.
Now, whichever faith you follow or whether you are religious or not, I think there are great lessons here. We can all do with time to look inwards and reflect on how we can be better in our roles in life. Better friends, better partners, better children, better parents, better members of society, better human beings.
Another thing to notice when we turn our attention inwards is who do we need to forgive? This one isn't always easy but if we want others to forgive us for our mistakes or errors in judgement we must be willing to do the same, shouldn't we?
It's not always easy to do but I would suggest that if you don't want to do it for the person who you see to have wronged or hurt you, then do it for yourself. Forgiveness is all about you rather than the 'offending' party. Why?
Because the only one that gets hurt by holding onto anger and resentment is YOU! It's like taking poison and expecting someone else to die.
Holding on to these negative feelings slowly eats away at you and is detrimental to your mental and physical wellbeing meanwhile the person your resentment is aimed at is getting on with their life but you're the one being held back.
Mark Twain said it so well, "forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds upon the heel that crushed it".
Now I'm not suggesting for one minute that you become some airy fairy walk over, no, it's important to speak your mind and speak out if you feel you've been wronged. But once what needs to be said has been said move on or in the words of Princess Elsa....Let It Go!
This is where journaling can really help to release that burden that you end up storing and carrying around. It's amazing how freeing it can be to get everything out of your head and heart and onto paper. So please, if you are still carrying any anger or resentment towards anything or anyone get it out and onto paper and when you are journaling remember to also write down what you are grateful for as this helps your mind focus on the positives of life rather than the negatives.
Another great tool is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also known as tapping. I use EFT a lot, any time I feel overwhelmed, or if I'm feeling nervous or scared, I start tapping and as a qualified practitioner I've also helped clients deal with emotional blocks using this technique. The beauty of EFT is that once you know how to use it, it's in your wellbeing 'toolbox' to use whenever you need it.
Okay, so you're on the road to having inner peace, now for the pancakes!
Shrove Tuesday which is the day before the start of Lent when Christians fast or sacrifice certain foods for the upcoming 40 days. Traditionally on Shrove Tuesday, they would make pancakes to use up eggs, milk and sugar which were considered to be rich foods before Lent began.
Whether you are observing Lent or not, here is a healthy gluten free recipe for you to enjoy.
I'd love to know your experiences. Are you carrying negative emotions towards anyone and how is that affecting your life? Have you managed to forgive someone after a long time and how did that make you feel? Have you used journaling effectively? Join in the conversation by leaving your comments below and if you liked this post don't forget to share it with your loved ones.
Peace & pancakes!
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