Welcome to 2016!
A new year is the opportunity to wipe the slate clean, a fresh start. It's a time for getting rid of the old to make way for the new.
By that I don't just mean clearing out the closet of things that are no longer need and are just taking up space but also old emotions, hurt, anger and habits that don't serve you. We need to let things go to make ourselves lighter. Apologies if you now have a certain Disney song playing in your head ♪♫
Before a new chapter begins the previous chapter must end. Dwelling on the past just stops us from moving forward, it's like an invisible ball and chain. So what are you still holding onto from last year (and in some cases many years)?
So this year, stop dwelling on the negative and all the things that went wrong, instead step into this new year being kind to yourself, knowing that anything is possible if you are willing to do what it takes.
Now I'm not one for making resolutions. Most people make resolutions and by the end of January most have fallen by the wayside. Instead of making resolutions I like to set goals.
Setting short term and long term goals and rewarding yourself for achieving them if far more effective. When I say short term it can be as short as a day. When you get up in the morning you can say 'just for today I am going to.........' and at the end of the day celebrate the fact that you managed to achieve it. Oh and by the way, if you trip up one day, you don't self-deprecate, because tomorrow is another day you can start fresh. If you repeat this daily, soon you will have developed a positive new habit without frustration and without beating yourself up.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help map out your goals:
On a scale of 1 to 10 how satisfied were you with 2015?
Why did you score that way?
What were my biggest accomplishments in 2015?
What did I learn in 2015?
How do I want to grow in 2016?
What will I do more of?
What will I do less of?
What do I want to gain?
What do I want to let go of?
Who do I want to become?
What do I want to learn?
Who do I need to forgive?
Where do I want to be in 5 years and will my current actions and routine get me there?
What new habits do I want to cultivate?
What is the one step I can take today to help me achieve them?
My biggest goals for 2016 are:
I will achieve these goals because:
That last statement is a really important so take your time to really think about this one because if we want to achieve any goal we must have a strong reason to do it. Your WHY must evoke emotion and your reason to do something must be bigger than your reason not to.
Commit to stop being who you were and instead become who you want and need to be because for things to change we must change.
If you need a little help to get focussed and on track, as we all do sometimes, get in touch and let's see if we can put a plan in place to make 2016 your happiest, healthiest year yet.
Make it a good one!
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